In order to prevent rumors, I begin with an announcement: I’m not getting married any time soon (that I know of). However, if I do marry one day, I want to have a good relationship with my mother-in-law, so I read Deb DeArmond’s book, Related by Chance, Family by Choice with interest. I met DeArmond at a writer’s conference a year ago and was so intrigued by her book’s subject matter I had to read it after it was released.
The book is a must-read for women who want better relationships with their mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. DeArmond encourages Christian women to strive for improved bonds and not to settle for the world’s poor standards.
Though DeArmond has healthy relationships with her daughters-in-law, who contributed to the book, she doesn’t rely on human wisdom. One of the strengths of this book is the biblical approach DeArmond takes, and she uses the example of Naomi and Ruth as well as many other scriptures to support her points. Each chapter contains a self-assessment, a plan of action, and a prayer. DeArmond weaves anecdotes throughout the book, and the stories both terrified me and inspired me to pray for and work for a healthy relationship, should I ever have a mother-in-law.
I suggest purchasing the print version. I bought the Kindle version, and the tables and charts did not transfer well. Plus, at the end of each chapter there is space for answering questions.
Because of the strong biblical foundation and excellent advice, I highly recommend Related by Chance, Family by Choice.